Self Love = Success

Seems simple doesn't it? I never realised how my version of success has shifted and adapted so much over the last 12 months. It's unbelievable to me. I don't recognise my old self who measured her success by money and money alone.

Self Love equals Success.

Once you've got to the root of loving yourself, flaws and all, you will see that success happens. It is in everything you do, everything you lend your hand to. Every outing you take, every phone call, every task. You're a success. Finally. After all those years. It's arrived.

And guess what? I wasn't at all related to the amount of money in your bank account. It wasn't the car you were driving. It was all about how you feel. It IS all about how you feel in yourself, how you see yourself, how you value yourself.

Self love is one of those concepts that's become so very cool (or uncool) and hippy to talk about. "Oh you're one of those people, who talk about self love and the universe". Yes, yes I am.

But I am talking about it because I absolutely did not love myself at all until recently.

Quick story time for you...My parents have the worst relationship. My foundations for a romantic relationship and first role models of a female and male in my life were two completely unhappy people, who then by default, made each other unhappy.

I come from a second generation British-Indian family and so its not uncommon for me to mention that domestic violence was a normal occurence in my house. Witnessing that between my mother and father, seeing my mother stay year after year and my father continue to abuse alcohol and never change was confusing for a six year old, never mind a 29 year old.

It continues to this day, but it has taught me so much about myself. I am strangely grateful for the challenging childhood.

It taught me to value myself. I had to get there the long way. I had to hate myself first. I had to experience what I now know was depression. I had to go to some really shitty dark places to unlearn what I thought was true.

I had to relearn to love myself. That was the hardest part of all. It still is.

But since relearning, I have seen success in everything I have tried my hand it. Quitting my 'high flying' job, moving back across the world, starting a business or two. It's gone as well as it could in the midst of navigating a pandemic.

Self love is success because it's all you. And if you can't see how much of a success you are already, make some time to love you first. The success will come.

Lots of love,

Kim xx

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